Recently I've become more aware of the elderly and their outlook on life. I realize it's a blessing to grow older. What an honor it is to wear wrinkled skin that shows the passing of time. What a privilege it is to have "remember when" memories.
Although this may be a time when senior citizens feel like they are losing things more often or can't recall a conversation from five minutes ago. They most likely don't want to ask for help with medical needs or assistance to maintain their household responsibilities due to the changes in technology. I have personally witnessed that this can be overwhelming.
As I watch my own parents' age, I see where decisions made long ago can affect our attitude in how we grow older and treat others. Decisions in relationships, lifestyle, and finances can impact the state of mind either in a positive or negative way. I can see where feeling lonely or left out can make someone feel irritable or hurt. Impatience and intolerance can be an obstacle. Some may even become defensive over their material possessions.
In my book, I Called Her Nan, I mention many, "I didn't know"moments in reference to being a daughter-in-law to becoming a mother-in-law. Writing the book helped me let go of the things I cannot control. While caring for elderly parents, I can only hope that they too can start to let go of the things they can't control any longer.
I've learned a lot over the years and always try to do things with the best intentions. I hope that part of me never changes. I have experienced the repercussions of bitterness from those with a life of regrets and "what if's."
As I grow older, surprisingly I don't see a shorter path, only wider so I can see the people around me. On occasions, I'll look behind me to see the other set of footprints that are beside mine, and remind myself that I am never walking alone." As I try to envision the path before me, I can only see far enough to take my next step. It's my desire as my pace becomes a little slower, to do what I can to stay healthy, keep smiling, feel loved, and grow older gracefully.
~Cathy
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